Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Turn-ons & Turn-offs

In the spirit of Valentine's Day, I've been thinking about what is attractive in a man, as well as the things that are deal-breakers.

[This post might as well be called- what I'm looking for, while also avoiding, in my search for Mr. Right]

  • Strong faith and firm morals.  This is first and foremost for me, and what really defines a person. 
  • Family oriented.  After my faith, family is the most important thing in the world to me. 
  • Intelligence. It's important for a man to be able to carry on intelligent conversations and keep up with what's going on in the world.   
  • Good sense of humor.  It's refreshing for someone to be able to see the fun in life and not always take everything so seriously. 
  • Sense of purpose and direction in life.  You never have it all figured out, but I am so much more intrigued, and confident in, a guy who knows what he wants to do with his life and is striving to achieve his goals. 
  • Ryan Gosling looks.  Just kidding.  But really, if you resemble my favorite celeb, you might score some extra points...


  • Smoking.  Sorry, but it's just a terribly unhealthy habit.  And don't even get me started on dipping...
  • Heavy drinking- frequently. I promise I like to have fun, but any man that parties hard night after night is just not for me.
  • Lack of ambition.  Don't really know what you want to do with your life? Aren't willing to work hard to get there?  I'm gonna have a hard time with you.  
  • Disrespectful to others. I pay close attention to how a guy talks about/to his family, friends, and even total strangers.  
  • Bad attitude.  I think of myself as a generally happy, positive person who appreciates the little things in life, so I'm drawn to someone who has a similar outlook. 
What have I left off of the list?


  1. Agreed with most of your lists.
    And Ryan Gosling -- yum!

    loved reading this.

  2. Great post! Most entertaining! A picture of Ryan Gosling is also a plus!

  3. One of my turns-on and must haves is a guy that can either dance or is willing to look like a fool. I LOVE dancing so much, and I want to date someone who would enjoy going dancing with me.

    I agree with the heavy drinking, smoking, lack of ambition, and attitude as turn-offs!

    1. YES! Great one, Blake! It's so fun when a guy is willing to dance like a fool and not care how he looks...the perfect date to take to a wedding!

  4. The turn offs you have are all the same as mine!! Yes blog you have here.
    Almost Endearing

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